the 5 love language

was watching 'pillow talk' yesterday,

(a local drama about love, couplehood, and marriage)

in the show, this person said this to encourage a couple

who said they lost their initial love, 

and i thought it was so meaningful, i ought to share it here. 

well, its actually Dr. Chapman's The 5 Love Language. 

(actually, they can be applied into other relationships,  like kinship and friendship) 

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

well, it doesnt just stops here. you could say words of encouragement, or praise him/her to let them feel you appreciate what they have done for you. even if you dont really like it that much, say 'thank you', you never know how much it can mean to the other person. 

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

do things that he/she likes. for instance, taking her out for a shopping trip, or accompanying him for a gym session, etc...

Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

well, you dont have to spend a lot, a simple little gift for a random they, you should never underestimate how much happiness it can give him/her for the day, or maybe even the entire week. do this especially if you have been into a relationship for quite a long time. it will inject some live, some spirit into your relationship. 

Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

what is your love language?