the 6 emotional traumas (1-3)
1. being rejected - 'mom, why don't you want me?'
everyone came to this world, wanting affection, first from our mother, then our parents, our relatives. soon as we began to grow older and become more sociable, we desire the affection from friends. as we step into our teenage years and early adulthood age, we seek the affection and love from the opposite sex. that's how we are, we are constantly seeking for affection and love from those around us. man in himself, cannot survive on solidarity.
however, in life, we do not always get the love we desire from the person we think ought to give us, hence some of us suffer from rejection since a young age, be it rejection from our parents, or even our friends, or crushes. this form of rejection, maybe be a one off traumatic event, or accumulated over the years, will make us feel rejected, unwanted, and this can and will eventually throw us into depression. a bible character that best explicits this feeling of being rejected is mosses.
as a result of being unable to tackle this feeling of rejection, more than often we find our relationship with people at stake, especially with regards to our interaction with the opposite sex, because we lack the confidence to foster this relationship with people. hence it is hard of people to find such person as a lively and warm spirit.
2. anger - 'you better think twice before stepping on my toe!'
human's emotions are like this, if they feel they have been wronged, they will get angry. now what makes someone an angry person? it is most probably a child that grew up in a family that is oppressive towards him, and scolds him even for the slightest mistake, or simply by not attaining his parent's expectation. children from such families will tend to suffer from hiding and suppressing their feelings. such people usual feel insecure, and once their emotions have been triggered, it is so explosive, no one dares to come near them. they are often angered or irritated by the slightest thing, and to which, their reaction is oversensitive. Jonah is such an example.
however, such persons often deny the fact that they are being hurt. hence they project this self-confident image of themselves. often a times, such people are also harsh with their words and have their own theories towards things. these characteristic are a result of their feeling of supremacy, which is often the culprit of dysfunctional relationships they encounter.
in the eyes of the opposite sex. this self-confidence on first sight be deemed attractive, but in the long run, one is bound to find such a 'quality' a 'disaster' because of the endless quarrels that might occur throughout their relationship, even into marriage.
3. love-void-syndrome - 'if only someone loves me...'
Jacob is such a person. what is love-void-syndrome? this syndrome occurs when a children experience the lack of love during their childhood, this results in them always wanting more love more love from people.
in a relationship, such people tend to demand love, and more love from their partner. their desire and appetite for love is insatiable. in times when their relationship is going well, they tend to be very proactive, passionate, but conversely, once their relationship is met on rocks, they will become overly pessimistic about things. they are more steadfast in their love than most people, and they will subconsciously or unconsciously try to control their partner, or love their partner too much till it becomes suffocating. such people are easy to get suspicious even after they get married.
meanwhile, keep faith, pray hard, and don't give up!
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