恋爱-ing 101.1

this is a period of life that we begin to look around us for the other half that makes our heart whole. but many have found themselves lost, not knowing how to make the first step.

i know i am in not much position to talk about this with my very limited experience, but recently i chanced upon this book about dating, and i thought its a pretty insightful one. i felt its good stuff to share it with my blog's ardent fans.

before i begin, i would just like to quote something my best friend Jovena once said: 'you know, its likes buying a pair of shoes, its about wanting the pair that is beautiful but hurts your feet, or getting the pair that fits you comfortably, but may not be the most pretty one.'

this analogy describes finding your soul mate in a nutshell. i believe most of us want the best of both worlds, but when it comes to really making the decision, which will you pick? the precedent or the latter?

mastering the art of dating

why is everyone dating except me?!?

everyone is attractive in their unique own way. there is not a person that is not attractive. the reason why one question 'why nobody likes me? why am i still single?' is because he has yet to unleash his x factor and use it wisely to attract the opposite sex.

there are 2 reasons why one's charisma is being hidden;

1. oneself(自己）- beauty does not equate to being charismatic.

2. emotional trauma（创伤）- because of the emotional trauma that we have experienced previously, we (sub)/(un)-consciously hide our strengths, and because of this, we have a skewed view and understanding of ourself, thus not knowing how lovely and attractive we can be, and hence, losing our self-confidence in the process.

to understand ourselves better, and to discover and unleash our strengths, one ought to know which category of the 6 emotional trauma one falls under. with this knowledge, you will then be able to pin point your weakness(es), change them, and be the most attractive person!

i shall leave you with this for the time being, and the next time round, i will share with you more about the 6 common types of emotional trauma, their potential pit holes, and how to overcome them.

meanwhile, keep faith, pray hard, and don't give up!

[lets date!]